Good Thing, Bad Thing

My husband has started a dinnertime tradition at our house. Every evening Jeff will ask the kids, “Tell me one good thing about your day and one bad thing.” So the kids take turns telling us the highlight and lowlight of their day.

At first I tried to interject, “There doesn’t have to be a bad thing!” I explained to them that they weren’t obligated to try and think up something that was “bad.”

But my reservations ended up being unnecessary. Most of the time, the kids will just share their favorite part of the day, but every once in a while they will share about a disappointment too.

(No, I don’t bring food to the table like this.)

It has actually become a great way to engage with them about the things they are experiencing during the day at school or when playing with neighbors outside. This routine has become so customary, in fact, that the kids will even bring it up when we’re at a restaurant. We’ll be sitting in a booth at Apple Bee’s and one of the kids will say, “Hey, we haven’t done One Good Thing, One Bad Thing yet.”

In a simple way, my husband has been teaching our kids that no matter what happens, good or bad, we are here for them. We want to hear their stories and listen to their feelings.

I think God the Father wants us to do the same each day with Him too

He wants to hear our stories. He wants to listen. So God is continually inviting us to sit down and share with Him the stuff that happened during the day – both the good and the bad. And He wants to show us how sufficient His grace truly is.

I think this quote encapsulates the idea perfectly:

“Your worst days are never so bad
that you are beyond the reach of God’s grace.
And your best days are never so good
that you are beyond the need of God’s grace.”
– Jerry Bridges

At the end of each day, I can picture God saying, “It’s time for One Good Thing, One Bad Thing.” Of course, it doesn’t have to be limited to just one thing. But it’s a way to get started. And the best part is, no matter what it is, whether good or bad, big or small, He’s a big God; He can handle it.

If you would like to participate in this week’s quote, please visit the hostess’ blog. If you would like to know more information about this group of Christian writers, click on In Other Words.

15 thoughts on “Good Thing, Bad Thing

  1. That is so true..we have a BIG God, the Creator of all things so nothing is too small or insufficient and He doesn't look for perfection…He looks for humility….He looks for us….good or bad…He wants us to come before Him and to Him!

    If we all waited till all we did was good to come to Him…..we would be waiting a long time….Thank Goodness for Him! He is there for both the good and the bad, because we do matter that much to Him!

    Great post!

  2. Tami: I like that picture too!

    “Say What”: You're right. It is definitely one way to hear some things about our kids' days that we might not have heard otherwise. That's great that you were able to hear your children's stories and take the appropriate action for your family.

    Jennifer: Thanks for selecting the quote for this week!

    Miriam: I agree. It is great to be able to feel safe enough to share both the good and the bad.

    Stephanie: Thank you. I am enjoying writing for Titus 2!

    Rosslyn: Driving around town is a great time to share things. And I think most parents have to be careful with the same thing!

  3. I love your one good thing/one bad thing! It definitely helps open up dialogue. In my case, I am with my daughter almost all the time, so we tend to have our philosophical discussions while we drive around town. I have to be careful to make sure they are discussions and not lectures. 🙂

  4. Sweet post, Denise. So glad to see your smiling face now writing for Titus 2 in Action. God is certainly moving us into new seasons and often in disguise!

    Choosing JOY in this season,
    Stephanie

  5. What a great tradition. To be able to focus on the good and not dwell on the bad, but know that in both it is safe and good to share their hearts. Lucky kids to learn that lesson early. Thanks for sharing.

  6. Love the idea of the “one good thing, one bad thing” conversations…and I, too, love the picture of God waiting for us to share with Him as well. Thanks so much for participating this week!

  7. We did that for years when the boys went to public school. It was a wonderful way to find out as much about their day as possible. Some of the “tell us about something bad” turned into our decision to homeschool. You really can find out a lot from two simple questions.

  8. Sunflower Faith: “He doesn't look for perfection…He looks for humility.” I need to remind myself of this truth every single morning. Thanks!

    MY: Thanks.

    Karen: Let me know how it goes! 🙂

    Warren: Yes, he's a smart guy. I agree. But I have a feeling the kids will never be too old for it. 🙂

    Carol: Thank you.

  9. That was really good. I'm going to do that with my grandkids. I may even do it with my adult Bible Study asking them to share both the good and the bad. Its a great way to stop and reflect instead of sit and pout.

  10. This is a wonderful illustration – and what fortunate kids to have you and Jeff as parents.

    Ok, so you don't serve dinner under silver covered platters. But you do serve up love and concern under cover of engaging conversation. We are all searching, sometimes desperately, to find someone who is interested in us.

    Your children are blessed to have two such someone's every day. Wow – and to think that God is even more interested in us. Isn't that amazing? God bless you – Marsha

  11. That is so true..we have a BIG God, the Creator of all things so nothing is too small or insufficient and He doesn't look for perfection…He looks for humility….He looks for us….good or bad…He wants us to come before Him and to Him!

    If we all waited till all we did was good to come to Him…..we would be waiting a long time….Thank Goodness for Him! He is there for both the good and the bad, because we do matter that much to Him!

    Great post!

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