When Jeff and I got married, we both had full-time jobs, and we both had big dreams for our immediate future – dreams which included lots of kids and a bigger house. We got started right away on both of these dreams.
We now have three kids, and we’re content with three. But after buying a bigger house, I have to say . . . I am rethinking the whole idea of going for a bigger house. While I do appreciate that all three of our kids have their own bedrooms, I have found that bigger really isn’t always better. Honestly. Sometimes bigger just means more house to clean and more mortgage to pay.
At the same time, I am noticing a trend among empty-nesters and retirees. Most of them can’t wait to downsize into a more reasonably sized home.
It makes sense.
Even though Jeff and I are a long way off from being empty-nesters, our oldest child graduates from high school in two years. Will we need this much space then? Do we even need it now?
So much of what I dreamed about when we first got married has changed. I no longer find myself dreaming of a bigger, fancier house. Actually, I keep thinking of a time when our home could be a little smaller, a little easier to take care of.
I think I would prefer a simpler home.
Please don’t misunderstand me. I am not saying there is anything wrong with owning a larger house. But when that larger house becomes more of a burden than a blessing, it may be time to rethink some things.
For instance, I love to entertain. And I have always thought that a certain size home was necessary for entertaining. But nowadays, I am even rethinking the way I entertain.
What was it about big and flashy and fancy that drew me?
I don’t know anymore. What once held my focus no longer possesses the same allure.
I want a simpler life. I want less stuff. Less clutter. I want fewer boxes in the garage containing things I can’t even remember.
My main point with all of this, though, has little to do with stuffed boxes and stuffed homes. What I am discovering is that something has changed inside of me. What I want has changed.
It may take some time. But there’s something about this path that leads to simplicity that draws me. I don’t know where this path will lead; I just know that I’m ready for something simpler.
What are some ways that we might simplify our lives?