Milestones in Motherhood

Taken 16 years ago ~ Before digital cameras

We begin charting the milestones early on.

Baby’s first smile.
Baby’s first step.
Baby’s first tooth.

A moment later, that first tooth is gone ~ tucked safely beneath the pillowcase.

Before long, there are more fun firsts.

First photo after the braces are gone.
First time shopping for homecoming.

First real date.

With time, the milestones continue to change. And they feel strange.

There’s the first checking account. The first car.

These days, when my daughter backs out of the driveway, leaving for school on her own, I think back to those first moments, when I kept her bassinet next to my side of the bed. I fell asleep every night with my hand on her belly—just to make sure she was breathing.

It was then that a tender, vacuous ache took up residence. An ache for her to be healthy and whole. An ache for her to make better choices and never know the same pain I have known.

When she was still a baby, I used to wonder if this ache would ever go away.

I’ve learned it doesn’t.

It just changes with time.

I’ve discovered that it’s a beautiful ache, for it means I want more for her. More peace. More joy.

It’s an ache that leads me, every time, to my knees, praying to the only One who loves her more than I.

With each new milestone, each new day, it’s an ache I embrace.

Have you celebrated a milestone with a cherished one lately?

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” ~ Philippians 4:6-7

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Today, I’m joining Lisa-Jo, taking 5 minutes to write about “ache.”

40 thoughts on “Milestones in Motherhood

  1. But I don’t like the ache! I know, I know. Discipline seems hard at the time, but later produces a harvest of righteousness. God is good. All the time. Even when we ache. Love your words, friend.

  2. I think that ache can be the hardest part of parenting… wanting them to not know the pain that you have know, make the same mistakes that you have made. but yes we ache for them to have more to be better.

  3. Just beautiful friend. You are so right, the ache never goes away, it just changes. I’m thankful for you, and so excited you have found this beautiful blogging community. What a delight this place is!

  4. OK, you made me cry! It is over in an INSTANT. My only living child will be 24 in April…the journey can be painful, joyful, name the emotion…I’ve probably experienced it. But, WOW…what a joy to have children.

    Thank you for writing so beautifully the emotions so many of us feel or have felt.

    • Oh, Mary, thank you for sharing. What a tender, sweet heart you have.

      I agree; this journey called motherhood is full of every possible emotion. I’m so thankful that we can look to Him through it all.

      ~HUGS

  5. Wow… The more I read, the more I felt your ache. I’m at the 6, 3, and 1 stage right now. Trying to take in every simple moment… knowing that they fly away too quickly. Thanks for this sweet reminder of how precious those moments all truly are. Beautifully written! Have a blessed weekend! 🙂

  6. I love what you wrote here: “It’s an ache that leads me, every time, to my knees, praying to the only One who loves her more than I.”

    May we all respond as you have!

    Thank you for sharing…

  7. I used to lay my hand on my sleeping babies too and watch them breathe! How quickly the time goes! I can’t even begin to imagine how I’ll feel when they’re driving! You describe these milestones so eloquently and I love that all points back to our Creator and trusting Him with our children “It’s an ache that leads me, every time, to my knees, praying to the only One who loves her more than I.” Thank you for sharing.

  8. Oh, I just love this, Denise, “I’ve discovered that it’s a beautiful ache, for it means I want more for her. More peace. More joy. It’s an ache that leads me, every time, to my knees, praying to the only One who loves her more than I.” Thank you for this beautiful post.

  9. Beautiful post as always, Denise!

    I’m learning to embrace the ache. My oldest is turning 4 next month and by God’s grace, the journey ahead will be filled with all things new. The ache, however, will remain the same. and for some bizarre reason, there’s comfort in that, isn’t there.

    Thanks for warming my heart!
    All for Him,
    Nikki

    • You are so right. Especially when we’re first expecting, we don’t expect the aches, but they’re as real as the joys. In fact, it might be impossible to have one without the other. Hmmm.

      ~Blessing to you today. 🙂

    • Oh, wow! That’s a big deal! I’ll be praying it’s a special day, both for her and for you. 🙂

      And, yes, thank you. I’m feeling really good about all that I finished in the past two weeks!

    • Everybody always says, “It goes by so fast!” And it does. But I love that saying: “The days may drag by, but the years, they fly by.” So true. So true.
      ~ Blessings to you Cecelia. 🙂

  10. yes, i understand this ache. another year, and my oldest will be driving. and i’ve ached through all those years! what a great reminder to continue on our knees, praying them on and through toward the plan God has for them.
    steph

    • Oh, wow, the driving thing is really something ~ such a huge milestone of independence. I love how you put that … “praying them on and through toward the plan God has for them.” Amen!

  11. Reading this just makes me want to lean in close to Him and pour out my heart contrite for all the precious moments I let pass without considering the gifts they were… but it also compels me to face the new day with eyes open to the blessing my 3 girls are to me… One who will be 2 years, another entering her teens, and another turning 18 years old… all this year…

    I love this… “It’s an ache that leads me, every time, to my knees, praying to the only One who loves her more than I.”

    Beautiful…

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