To Leave Well Is To Love Well

We’ve all left things.

We’ve left childhood. We’ve left home.

Perhaps we’ve left jobs. Or cities.

Leaving is a part of life.

In fact, leaving is how this whole “children of God” thing began. God called Abraham to leave his home and set out for an unknown land. There, God promised to make Abraham’s descendants His children.

“By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” ~Hebrews 11:8

Sometimes God calls us to leave — to set out towards an unknown future, trusting that He will guide the way. Of course, there are other times when God calls us to stay.

“The Lord, the God of Israel says, ‘If you stay in this land, I will build you up and not tear you down.” ~Jeremiah 42:10a

The writer of Ecclesiastes iterates the same idea.

“There is a time to plant and a time to uproot.”                  ~Ecclesiastes 3:2

If we find ourselves in a season where we sense God leading us to embark in a new direction, then it is so important — imperative, really — that we leave well.

Hurts and disappointments may tempt us to leave in a mad rush — to turn our backs on the pain and thumb our noses at the offenders. But this only leaves a wake of brokenness, causing even deeper hurt.

To leave well takes courage and humility. It means relinquishing the right to “have the last word.”

To leave well is to heal well. And healing precipitates trusting. A requisite for loving.

Thus . . .

To leave well is to love well. It’s how we honor those who have been a part of our lives. It’s how we build lasting ties, the kind that will span time and distance.

Leaving well frees us to love those who become a part of our past as well as those who become a part of our future. For our character is formed within the furnace of affliction, and we take our character with us everywhere we go.

How we say “good-bye” says a lot about who we really are.

Have you ever experienced a time when the discipline of leaving well taught you the art of loving well?

*I recently read a book by Henry Cloud called “Necessary Endings.” It’s full of wisdom, to help us navigate the natural transitions that inevitably occur in our lives. If you find yourself nearing any kind of life transition, I highly recommend this book.

Today, I’m joining Lisa-Jo, taking 5 minutes to write about “good-bye.”

Looking up verse: 3 minutes
Writing this post: 5 minutes
Uploading photo and links: 6 minutes
Spending Fridays with you: Priceless

14 thoughts on “To Leave Well Is To Love Well

  1. I’ve done a lot of leaving in my life. Some well, some not so well. I’ve learned from my mistakes and do see the importance of leaving well. It is an art and the there is beauty behind it. Even it is a really hard “goodbye”. Thanks for sharing!

  2. great thoughts here…leaving well helps us love well…leaving well affects where we are going…so true…blessings to you~

  3. Such great thoughts, Denise! And, yes, I have learned to leave well, and sadly, I have also sometimes not left well. Thankful that God keeps teaching us. Great post…especially since you did it in five minutes. 🙂

  4. The book you referenced, sounds wonderful! Leaving well is something I could use some wisdom on. This post convicted my heart, because I KNOW I have failed in this area many, many times. God will always have us go full circle. I believe it is part of His redeeming plan. Sometimes the journey to go full circle takes us on a detour on the way toward our destiny. He works it into His perfect plan, but still, it takes us a longer way. Thank you for this wisdom and insight. I desire to move forward, the right way, into all that God has.

    Blessings to you…

  5. You are astounding… this is such a good post. I am so impressed that you got SO MANY nuggets of truth in just five minutes!!
    Love spending Firidays with you, too!! (Even though it’s Saturday now.)

  6. Good to read this today. With everything going on in our family lives, there will be changes – we’re in the throes of change right now. I’m praying without ceasing and one prayer simply must be to say goodbye to some things, and trust God in how our future will look. He certainly has me on a journey right alongside my daughter and her illness. Thank you Denise, for this precious reminder that there is a time for all things, and that there is a new way being formed and I need only to follow and trust the Lord for that way to unfold as I say goodbye to some old. Will pick up a copy of the recommended book too!

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