I must have been born with an invisible handicap when it comes to this elusive thing called community.
First, I was born into a family with two much-older brothers. I never had a sister or a sibling close in age. Growing up, I was used to playing alone.
Second, my inborn temperament is of a quieter nature. I like to listen, especially when I’m in a group. Too much talking makes me tired.
Obviously, I’m an introvert. I “recharge” by spending time alone. Reading. Writing. Whatever. Sustained quiet time is nourishment to my soul.
In my experience, I’ve learned what they say is true . . .
Introverts don’t feel lonely when they’re alone.
Introverts feel lonely when they’re with other people.
It’s weird being an introvert because, on the one hand, I’m rather content spending time alone. Just me and God. Or just me and my books. Or just me and my pen.
Between the Bible, other good books, and blank pages to write on, who could ever be bored or lonely?
On the other hand, God made us relational beings. We need connection.
I guess the answer lies in this simple truth . . .
I don’t need lots of connection, but I do need a few, deep, meaningful connections. I need friendship, like anybody else. I need community.
For some, though, friendships seem to come easily. My daughter is the quintessential extrovert. Simone is 17 years old, and she has about a thousand friends; whereas, I’ve been alive almost four decades, and I barely know 300 people. (I know this because I’m “Facebook friends” with just about everyone I’ve ever known.)
My sweet daughter can talk non-stop for hours too. (Sometimes I wonder how she sneaks in breaths between her words. It must be a talent.)
Simone teaches me every day how God made us all unique, or in my case, uniquely challenged.
But even though I’m community-challenged, I will continue to reach out. It’s why I write. Sometimes I find it easier to share my heart through written words than spoken ones. It’s through words that we connect hearts and build futures, in community.
And I think now would be the perfect time to say, “thank you,” to all of you. Your kind words always brighten my day. Your encouragement helps draw me out of my shell, a little more each week.
Blessings to you, dear friends. What a joy it is to journey along this road of words together.
How do you recharge when you’re feeling tired? With friends? Or with quiet time?
Today, I’m joining Lisa-Jo, taking 5 minutes to write about “community.”
Writing this post: 5 minutes
Uploading photo and links: 8 minutes
Spending Fridays with you: Priceless